So I have an update, sorry for the hiatus..

Nothing was working until I contacted the Rep from Sloan. He told me they make a special, not sold in stores, diaphragm to take care of the problem. What was happen he said is where the inner ring makes contact with the diaphragm underneath it, is letting air thru. So I got this new version from him and presto! They told me its a service part not available on the market but you can request a couple free ones when you need them. very cool.... turds are flushin again!